In October of 2020, I gave birth to my first child. I was transformed. I shifted away from a ten-year career working for a renowned global nonprofit and began exploring infant psychology and neurobiology.
I’ve been where you are. I understand the exhaustion, depletion, and anxiety of early motherhood. I also know what it’s like to feel desperate for sleep solutions only to be faced with binary options: wait it out or cry it out.
Here’s what I learned: Since babies’ brains don't have the architecture to even begin to regulate on their own until they're 3-5 years old (the myth of self-soothing!), sleep training doesn't actually teach sleep. We have mistaken adaptation for well-being. We have normalized a system that asks mothers to betray their instincts. A system that actively undermines a baby’s potential to become a secure, independent, and healthily attached adult.
But it’s bigger than sleep. We’re also seeing skyrocketing rates of maternal anxiety and depletion, chronic stress in developing nervous systems, and a generation of parents wondering why something feels off when they’re “doing everything right".
When mothers are given accurate information about infant biology – when they understand what is normal, when they are supported in responding instead of resisting – their entire existence is altered.
Infant sleep is not something to train. The mother-baby relationship is not an obstacle to overcome,
I’ve worked with thousands of families and trained practitioners around the world in a radically different approach to infant sleep—one rooted in biology, nervous system science, attachment, and ancient wisdom.
If you’ve been stuck in sleep spirals or self doubt, this is your invitation to listen to the call of your instincts. To let motherhood change you.
For the last 200 years, our dominant culture has expected — no, it has required — women to live and mother in a way that is incongruent with what we are biologically designed to do: nurture our babies during the day and at night.
Western culture separates mothers and babies too soon, pathologizes normal infant behavior, celebrates disconnection and “independence”, and endlessly shouts “sleep training” despite interdisciplinary evidence reiterating the critical importance of warmth, attunement, and responsiveness.
My work explores baby sleep through science and spirit, blending indigenous wisdom traditions, mysticism, neuroscience, developmental science, anthropology, and evolutionary biology to show parents how they can meet their babies’ needs at night AND thrive in the day.
